Monday, December 31, 2012

Change

Hi friend.

Just enjoying a quiet day, watching some Disney movies, and eating a delicious salad- courtesy of Jessica.

So far we've enjoyed movie nights, the Chicago day trip, playing lots of card games, teaching Tyler how to play dots, and the annual shooting excursion.  Jered was even impressed by my skills this year guys!  I hit a bottle floating down the creek twice in a row!


And guys-as we were watching Swiss Family Robinson, Tyler, one of my new nephews, asked if he could curl up on the couch with me.  And then I got to hear: I'm really glad you're my aunt.  So special.

As we prepare for our New Year's Eve festivities at the Flinkman household, I'm taking a little time to think about the last year.  What a year it's been!

Twelve new family members.  Seven months of brainstorming and shopping and planning our wedding day. Six blissful days in Cancun.  Four months of marriage. Three of four semesters down for Jered at Loyola University.  Two inherited nephews, and two new nieces or nephews on the way.  One amazing husband.

(It would have been nice to have 12-1 things, wouldn't it?  I wasn't that creative... or patient.)

It hasn't all been kicks and giggles though.  There have been some big bumps along the way.  And they've been hard.  Real hard.  But God has been faithful to our family and friends.

I almost feel a little selfish for loving and reminiscing about this year when so many people are ready to put it in the past, but I don't know that that's necessary.

You know, for someone who dreads change, I've experienced a lot of them this year.  I moved out of the comfort of my parents' home, left a great, steady job, moved to a place where most people can't imagine me living, picked up three nannying jobs, now live with a boy, and am even now, wondering where my husband will move us in the next year.

And guess what I've found.

Change isn't so bad after all.  I guess you just have to go with the flow, right?  Sometimes it's even really exciting.

Now, I haven't given New Year's resolutions any thought for several years, probably not since Myspace was the foremost form of social media.

I've decided to make a couple unofficial New Year's resolutions this year though.

I want to read more.  I miss how it felt to expand my mind while I was still in school.  Even if it's for fun, I plan to do that again through reading more books this year.  Luckily, I have my next four lined up, and then I'm moving on to the new Divergent series, which Molly and Justin have been devouring this week.  I also plan to reread The Giver.


I want to cook more for my husband.  Basically, I just want to become a better wife all around.

Lastly, I want to keep a book like this one:


I plan to, starting tomorrow, keep a record of something good from each day this year.  I highly doubt that Jered would take part in this activity with me, so I may make it into a book or journal for him to read at the end of next year.  I'm not sure yet.  Anyway- tomorrow night, whether it is on an old receipt or a note card, I will begin the makings of this journal/scrapbook.

Tonight, the remaining Flinkmen and women will bring in the new year with another session of the Newlywed Game.  Here's hoping that last year's champs will hold on to their reign!

So for now, I must say goodbye!  Talk to you next year!

Aim

Friday, December 28, 2012

A New Christmas

Hello.

As Christmas quickly approached and passed by, I couldn't help but think about how different it would be.

Strictly location based, it wasn't too abnormal.  I got to spend the week before Christmas, Christmas Eve (which I count as a holiday in itself), and Christmas day with my family in Canton.  Now we are spending the next week and a half with the Flinkmen and Flinkwomen in Cissna Park.  (Molly and I agree that this is a better grammatical rendition of the name.)  So, when I look at recent years, this year's location really isn't too wild.

However, then I look down at my hand resting on the keyboard.  And resting on my ring finger, still just a smidgen too big, is the most beautiful gift I've ever been given in my life.  (And I've gotten some really amazing gifts guys- let me remind you of the music box Jered made for me.  Plus, my parents LOVE Christmas and gift giving.)

Anyway, I digress.  So there is my ring.  That is what symbolizes how different this Christmas has been for me.  This year, I got to open presents with my family and my husband on Christmas morning.  I went into Christmas, more content than I had ever been.

Going into the Christmas season, I will admit that I was nervous about how our scheduling would pan out with two families involved now.  I cannot explain how unbelievably blessed I feel that Jered was ok with spending Christmas Eve and day with my family.  As you may know, I'm not a huge fan of change, and not being there for Christmas would have been a biggie.  For as different as this year is, I was able to retain my most cherished traditions, and I even got to share them with Jered.  That was pretty exciting for me.

There's more than just that though.  As I remember last year, obviously the most unexpected proposal fills my head.  Maybe you remember, or maybe you didn't hear the story.  If you haven't, or if you happen to enjoy reminiscing like I do, here is the story.

That's all wonderful, and I will enjoy sharing it for years to come, but there's part of the story I didn't share before.  Shortly after the blissful event and right before our Christmas brunch, Katie and I went upstairs to change out of our church clothes.  We got to her room and just hugged.  Hugged and hugged.

I realize I can't really speak for her, but I have a feeling I'm right.  I think that was hug was filled with joy in both of our hearts.  But I also think there was a sad realization in both of our minds.  Everything was going to be different.  No more sleeping together in my room on Christmas Eves.  "Aimee and Katie" would always be just a little different from now on.

It was different.  That much is certain.  However, experiencing it and reading Molly's Christmas post, it's clear that some change isn't so bad after all.  Our Christmas was wonderful.  Jered had my family in stitches half the time.  Katie and I still had our top of the stairs picture.  Dad and Jered played Wii golf for hours almost every night.  We went to the Festival of Lights.  Mom and I got to Christmas shop together.  And we all spent Christmas Eve watching Christmas cartoons and putting together a puzzle.

Now, we are at Jered's parents' house with most of his family.  Tyler told me he's really glad I'm his aunt.  That made my night obviously.  It's wonderful to officially be part of the family. 

One thing about the Flinkman household you should know- a quiet moment is rare, and therefore, I am having trouble focusing on this right now.  And because of that, I'm heading out for now.  Goodbye for now!

Aim

Thursday, December 6, 2012

Blessings

Hi guys.

So, I'm a little late, but I've been thinking about all the ways that God has blessed Jered and me since we tied the knot.

It's super easy for me to think about how tiny our apartment is, or how I wish I had just one more counter in the kitchen, or that it would be nice to have more income.

It's not as easy, but turned out to be not too difficult to find just a few of the great things God has done for us so far.

Some of them include:
  • a loving and supportive family
  • great friends and family members who helped make our beautiful wedding possible
  • a fantastic honeymoon
  • a comfortable apartment with all the furniture we need
  • plenty of hot water and good water pressure 
  • air conditioners for the hot weather and heat for the cold weather
  • great location (we're super close to Jered's school, grocery stores, and a Target!)
  • being jobless long enough to get comfortable in my new setting
  • having 3 flexible, part time jobs, watching 6 great kids
  • never going hungry
  • Jered's continued good grades
  • a husband who is patient with my lack of cooking skills
  • the ability to get time off to visit family
  • living close to a bunch of our friends
  • a reliable car

God is good.

Wondering about my book?  I thought so.  I can hardly put it down.  Crazy good.

Also, I think it's worth mentioning that this week I had to call my dad to get instructions on making grilled cheese sandwiches.  Rest assured- I'm a pro now...  Give me a break- I never made them before and never paid attention to how it was done.

In addition to these riveting updates about my life, Jered spent about 10 minutes last night asking for my help in a new harmonica song he's trying to learn.  Precious.

Well guys, I'm off. Talk to you later.

Aim

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Talk about Juxtaposition...

Hello all.
Jeepers! Has it really been a month since my last letter?  I was doing so well.  I guess since I've started my nanny gigs, I've had a slightly opposite schedule than my husband, so I don't make it to the library with him as often.

Well, if you know me or my sister well at all, you know that we like to have movies on in the background of basically whatever we're doing- something that drives Jered crazy.  So, one morning last week, I popped in The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe, intending to have some background noise while I read my book.

Turns out, it had been so long since I've watched Narnia, that I couldn't stop watching it that time.  It also turns out that I am truly becoming my mother: I can't tell you how many times I got blurry eyed during it.

Now, I am not really a battle scene guru, but in my unprofessional opinion, that movie has the best battle scene ever, unparalleled, except maybe by Gandalf's eastern entrance over the mountain in the Lord of the Rings trilogy.  However, that was just an entrance, not an entire scene.


The build up of inspiring music followed by the silence as the two sides collide is enchanting to me.  It's also emotion filled instead of mostly blood and guts.  I mean, the NERVE of that witch, riding in wearing Aslan's mane!  But I suppose that fits in with the symbolism of the whole story.  How convincing would Satan be if he just showed up as his bared self all the time?

Dr. Graddy once taught us, while we were reading Nathaniel Hawthorne, that the devil is the perfect liar because he knows the most believable lie is mixed with truth.

Coincidentally, I am reading a book right now that is all about warfare as well: spiritual warfare.  I'm reading Frank Peretti's Piercing the Darkness.

I can't remember if I told you about reading This Present Darkness a couple years ago, but this one is very similar.  It's all about a small town that is under attack by demons.

The book goes into scenes of the demons' ranks, the Heavenly Host's meetings, and the poor humans who are being deceived, fighting for the Lord, or caught in the middle and being tortured by demons.  Most of the demons have names too, such as Greed, Guilt, Lust, Gossip, Strife, Despair, Fear, Insanity, and so forth.

Usually, I wait until I'm finished with a book before I tell you about it, but this one is already so good that I've copied down entire paragraphs to share, so I might as well do that along the way.

This particular story deals with a monstrous lie being spread about the town's Christian school and one of its teachers.  The whole community, believers and otherwise, are thrown into a tumultuous legal and spiritual battle, and lucky readers that we are, get to see all of the behind the scenes action.

Without ruining the book for you, I feel that I can share these two excerpts.  The first is a thought from Destroyer, one of the head demons.

"...I suggest there is one force stronger than their zeal for God: their own self-righteousness!  We will make them proud, pure in their own eyes, vindictive, unjust judges over each other, and stir up such a noise among them that the simplest prayers will not be uttered."

This second one is from the perspective of one of the angelic leaders during a church meeting, where the members gathered to discuss and pray over the troubles they were facing.

"Tal could feel a good concert of prayer here- but he was also distracted by a bad presence in the group.  Somewhere, somehow, Destroyer had planted an invisible, insidious infection, and Tal could feel it growing.  Destroyer had done well; on the surface, the infection was almost impossible to notice; it was going to be hard to expose, and even if the Heavenly Host could reveal it, the hearts of the people themselves would have to change before the germ could be rooted out."

Wow-ee!

First of all- brav-o Mr. Peretti on that awesome alliteration.  I wasn't entirely sure what insidious meant, although I had an idea, so I looked it up: intended to entrap or beguile, stealthily treacherous or deceitful, or operating or proceeding in an inconspicuous or seemingly harmless way, but actually with grave effect.  Ok, so yeah- perfect word choice for what's going on.

Anyway, I know we've all heard "get the plank out of your eye before worrying about the speck in your neighbor's," but this gives me such a different picture of what is really going on in that kind of situation.  I never gave much thought to demons being around before I read Perretti's books.  I'm not saying they should be taken literally and as gospel truth, but what if it's true, that sometimes I have an ugly, little demon sitting on my shoulder, digging its nasty talons into my skin and distracting me from the truth of what really matters?

How many times have I been concerned over someone else's life when I should have just gone straight to prayer?  How many times has that demon bolstered my self-righteousness to distract me from praying?

If there's one thing Frank Peretti has taught me in his books, it's that I don't go to prayer often enough.  I suppose it's more likely that God is teaching me that through his books.  How sad that it takes a fictional novel to remind me of that fact.

On a happier note, Jered and I spent a lovely week on vacation, visiting our families.  First we spent a few days with the Flinkmans, having a delicious Thanksgiving meal, watching silly TV shows with Jessica, and going on a quick girls' date to Dairy Queen the day it closed for the season.  Jered also went hunting, and I did some experimental baking with Jessica.

Then we just made it to the Farm on time to have Thanksgiving with Dad's side of the family.  After going back to our house, we spent the remainder of the weekend putting together a puzzle, watching Christmas movies, seeing Breaking Dawn, helping Katie study, working on a project, snacking on salami, and Jered even got to do some more hunting with Dad.

All in all, it was a wonderful vacation.  It's so great to be able to spend time with our family, and we were so thankful to have the whole week to do so.  And although we're back to the "real world," it's a little more pleasant with our Christmas decorated apartment.  From home, we brought Christmas candles, the ceramic Christmas tree I received as a bridal shower gift, and my first nativity set that my Grandpa Bill and Grandma Robbie gave me for Christmas a few years back.  It's the first time I've gotten to use it!


Even with those things, our apartment just wasn't living up to the Christmas setting we had wanted.  We didn't have a branchy tree, and I was really upset that I couldn't find the ornaments Grandma Lynn made for me.  I think Jered could tell I was a little bummed, and I came home from work one night last week to a HUGE surprise.

First, there was a fresh wreath on our door.  When I walked inside, I found Jered had lined the tops of our windows with icicle lights, bought a little Christmas tree and put lights on it and decorated it with candy canes, and crafted a huge star out of wires and Christmas lights for the wall behind our bed.  He's wonderful.  For real guys- I was in tears.


So, feeling that I should contribute, I decorated our kitchen window with an Pinterest-inspired idea, and put up the two ornaments that we received in a Christmas basket wedding gift.



Whew!  That was a bit longer than I intended!  I guess that's what happens when I mean to write more often than I do!  Well, just a week and a half left before Jered and I go back on vacation- this time for three weeks!  Can't wait!  Talk to you later folks!

Aim